19. Create a Sexy Bucket List
“This is a great way to dream and fantasize without the pressure of actually having to check off all the items,” says Overstreet. “It’s a safe place to share these activities with one another. Be sure to decide that just because you put them on your list, they don’t have to happen.”
20. Consider Maintenance Sex
While the idea of whirlwind rendezvous is far more, well, sexy, being intentional about your sex life can have a resounding impact. Scheduling maintenance sex holds you accountable for being there for your partner, reduces the burden of incompatible sex drives, and minimizes the risk of being too busy to remember to get busy since you’ve already carved out the time for it. Plus, just knowing when it’s going to happen builds anticipation and excitement.
21. Seek Professional Help if Needed
If you are unsatisfied with your sex life, you are far from alone. “Many people have problems with sex because most of us grew up in a culture that taught us that balancing a checkbook was more important than creating harmonious sexual relationships,” admits Darnell.
If you and your partner have tried to talk about your problems and it hasn’t made things better, or if you are struggling to have the conversation altogether, you might want to seek professional help. “Having problems with sex is normal. Continua a leggere